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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I believe in honesty first. I have seen how lies can literally ruin people's lives. I also believe that of you're not upfront, how can anyone help?
Like LT said, there is a range of ways your T can react. I need my Ts to not panic and definitely not threaten hospitalization. Then again, I'm not currently SH'ing and haven't for 8+ years. L and I process why my SI and SH parts are active: what they need and want, what they're trying to say or what they're trying to protect me from. We find value in all my parts including the dangerous ones.
It's completely up to you if and how you disclose your SH. You can always have a discussion about your history with SH and what type of reaction would be helpful BEFORE you disclose the current SH. That way you can get a feel about how she'll react.
If you want help with it, I firmly believe being honest about it. Again, that's just me.
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This bolded part is a really good idea, especially if you've never discussed it with her. You could also ask how she generally handles SH with clients.
I also wanted to add that something I've told my T is that, even though he isn't concerned about it in terms of my safety, it's very distressing to me to feel that way, whether the desire to SH or actually acting on it (I haven't SHed in a while either). I think that helped him to understand.
And also explaining the reasons that you do it or feel the desire to, as different people do it for different reasons. Mine comes more from self-loathing, a sort of punishment almost, for example. Others might do it just to feel something (if they're feeling numb) or as a sort of release or distraction from emotional pain (he mentioned that).