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Originally Posted by eskielover
From personal experience getting to the point of getting a divorce isn't like a light switch that just turns on. It builds up to get to that point but that doesn't mean the lack of tolerance isn't building up & coming out during that period of build up to that point.
I agree that leaving her stranded without the means to get home was a bit radical.....however sometimes when we are fed up feeling the other person is being irresponsible, the gut reaction can be that they will learn a lesson the hard way & next time go prepared. If irresponsible decisions have no consequences, people don't bother to learn any other behavior & in reality they are blaming the other person for not bailing them out for their bad choices as much as the other perdon is blaming them for their bad choices.
My marriage was similar only it was my H who was always messing things up financially & making bad choices. Yes, I left & after I left he totally destroyed himself financially. He never learned & never will because that is who he always was & always will be. But it took awhile to get to the point where I was financially able to leave even though I wanted out long before I could make it happen.
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I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. What happened with me is different though. I just happened to assume the train ran latter. And I forgot to charge my phone. I usually have my phone charged & I rarely leave the house not having planned things in advance.
I have what I need, gas, money, I.D, wallet, insurance, glasses, etc. I’m not that irresponsible. That only happened to me ONE time! So his reaction was WAY over the top!
As for the other situations to where I got assaulted, I took precautions, but I was the victim of bad luck. I shouldn’t be blamed for what happened.
I should’ve reacted to the situation differently though by calling the police & by not drinking as much & by not going out alone at times, yes. I never did any of those things for years. That happened years ago. The last incident took place maybe 13 years ago as far as the assault situations go.
And I have not been stranded anywhere ever again since that one time.
It’s not like this happens all the time. We have all probably had our phone die on us at one point I’m sure.
To be left stranded alone late at night in a big city to where I could get robbed or worse is unacceptable behaviour.