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Originally Posted by eskielover
@jesyka i learned to never just THINK something is the way I think it "should" be. Assumptions are very dangerous to use to guide your life & ususlly wrong. I ALWAYS get times & details that I have always verified & double checked.
I was in Calif in 2018 forba court case against my then still husband. The last day there I had my court hearing early in the morning. Then I had to make sure I got on the last metro that took me to Union Station in L.A. & connect with the flyaway to get me to LAX so I could make my flight home. Always take my phone charger with me & they have charging ports at the airport. One learns to plan ALL the details when we are dependent on other schedules than our own. When we end up with learned dependence on others it is harder for us to take on the responsibility of independence when we are doing something independent. Most mistakes that happen in our lives is because of a faulty choice we ourselves have made. Learning skills is important but most skills are based on common sense & sometimes it is a matter of learning the hard way.
Like I told my now ex, if I ever see his behaviors change then I will change my opinion of him.
You said these things happened awhile ago. Have you been making more responsible decisions lately? If so, has your husband
recognized the changes? Sadly my now ex never learned to make better choices & he lost the house to foreclosure because of his bad choices. I left & in my wisevdecisions, I financially & legally protected the farm I bought with the inheritance from my mom so he couldn't touch it even before we were legally divorced. Making our own wise decisions even when disabled (I had major depression & anxiety & PTSD & was just recovering from anorexia) is important to our own ability to survive & thrive. Interesting thing, I was able to heal those things along with my cronic migraines when I left that environment. The environment we live in does effect our mental & physical health
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Again, sorry to hear about your ex. I no longer out out alone at night anywhere most of the time unless it’s to a restaurant with my husband or friends. I can’t even drive at night.
I don’t go out to bars anymore period. I have only gone to a few small clubs & concerts with a trusted friend & not with people who may not have my back should I need them their help.
I haven’t really had any major issues. Just minor annoyances with a few rude people bumping into me.
I’ll never ever compromise my personal safety again by going out to certain places alone. I always fill up my car with gas, charge my phone, have cash on me, chech routes, etc.
I check in with my husband & friends & used the check in feature on rideshare & use the location share app.
I know better now. I even got an apple airtag for my luggage when we traveled. I watch my purse like a hawk & everything else too.
I don’t talk to strangers. I told this weird lady at a show to stop touching me or I’d get security to kick her out. She said something about me taking pics with a flash. I don’t take crap from anyone anymore!
She backed off after awhile. lol 😆 I didn’t drink excessively too.
I had my friend drive us or we took a train or an Uber when we went out. The main thing is that I rarely go out at night now.