i just despise him. he was trying to meet up this morning, and i was willing so i could ascertain his condition to know what we are dealing with. luckily he pulled out at the last second because it would have been a disaster. we had an annoying text convo instead.

some tidbits from him:
"lets give it another week. i don't appreciate you treat me like someone you should be weary of just because you don't like words i've said. Stop treating me like a bad guy."

"play your games. you need to grow up. its really too bad you cant own your stuff. never have. stand on your own two feet and take responsibility for your part in this mess. i'm not a monster."

"this has to stop being about us and our past. we have to drive forward. its about me and my relationship with our children. and you should be accommodating that. so please stop with the past and lets move forward. that is the responsible adult thing to do."

(i had mentioned how i was a nervous about picking him up and going somewhere together since he had been talking about how horrible i am just a couple weeks ago, because i decided its prob better to meet somewhere)

"if you wanted our child to have a relationship with me then you would already know (how to reunite them). Encourage her to respond to me so we can iron things out. forward movement. that is the only way. stop treating me like a bad guy."

"youre the adult. she is in your home. make adult decisions. it is in her best interest to have a relationship with both parents?"

"its your job as her parent to encourage it. because theres no reason we cant patch things up. otherwise its you being obtuse and not encouraging healthy relationships because of your own hangups between me and you. they need to be separate. and you have no right to influence her otherwise."

"she needs your help as the parent in front of her."

"this is where you need to step in as an adult. your job is to have a sound mind and guide her to healthy decisions. you wanted me gone. not me. own up and move forward. and let;s make healthy choices. she needs her father, no? what are you going to do as an adult parent to encourage her relationship with her father? first thing is to stop acting like i'm toxic. nobody will benefit except your ego."