So,, here's the next sucky people issue! It's "as the world turns"!

The bartender eventually replied to me and told me her side of the story. I believe her, as an abuse survivor myself. I tend to believe stories of abuse when they come out.

Yesterday, I ran into two women that I am acquaintances with. We started talking about what happened with the bartender at the music venue and her ex boyfriend, the lighting guy. Apparently, he is accusing his ex girlfriend, the bartender, of being crazy and having Borderline Personality Disorder. One of the women that I was talking with was vehemently expressing her disdain for the bartender, whom I had just defended to the other woman she was with. I had told the other woman that I support the bartender and her story. But this woman, Leslie, wouldn't stop talking about how crazy the bartender is, all the crazy things she has done, and how she is truly messed up, with a personality disorder.

Stupidly, I told the bartender what this woman was saying about her... ie, that she has a personality disorder. What does the bartender do? She turns right around and confronts this woman over facebook messenger about what she said! She didn't tell her that I told her this, I don't believe, but now because I stuck my nose in, I'm in the middle of this whole mess now! ARGH!

I never should have said anything! Little did I know that she would confront the woman.

But nonetheless, I am angry and bitter on the bartender's behalf!!!! This is exactly what abusers do!!!!! The smear campaign to ruin their victim's life and reputation!!!!! He's spreading rumors and people are believing his lies!!!!

I am truly sickened by all of this. It's not fair, it's not just ,and it's not OK... and this is what happens with abuse, nearly every time. The victim gets blamed, and is labeled as "crazy" with mental health problems! When in fact, the abuser likely created more mental health problems for the victim because of their crazy making behaviors and abuse! And yes, the victim can go a bit nuts in trying to deal with the abuse!!!!

I am outraged.... and this woman I ran into? Who believes the bartender has a personality disorder? I want nothing to do with her now. And now I see just how divided our music community is over this issue. Some support the bartender, and others support her abusive ex boyfriend, the lighting guy. The bartender says he even physically abused her. And I believe her.

What does this bring to me to thinking and feeling right now???? PEOPLE TRULY SUCK.

I am outraged.

AND, the woman, Leslie, who believes the lighting guy's version of what is true? She used to hit on my husband right in front of me. OR, rather, she made it SO obvious that she had an interest in him, and zero interest in speaking with me! ONLY after we separated did she begin to acknowledge my presence even and begin to talk to me. But whenever she ran into us together, it was like I didn't even exist! She would only direct her conversation, attention, and eyes on my husband!

I've determined that Leslie is yet another a-hole. She hit on my husband and was rude to me in the past, she support's the abuser's story and is spreading negative rumors about the poor bartender. I want NO PART of this anymore.