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Old Jul 16, 2023, 07:16 AM
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Originally Posted by jesyka View Post
It’s complicated. He does have good qualities tbh at times. All men are mean & controlling to me. Sime more than others.

So, what choice do I have? No other decent guy will want a messsed unemployed fat middle aged ugly woman with mental health issues. So I’m stuck. Only a messed up loser will maybe put up with me. Someone like a drug addict or something like that. No thanks.

At least I have a roof over my head & am not being physically beaten. No one could ever love me. No decent guy ever liked me.
Not all men are mean and controlling. Your husband is, but that doesn't equate to mean all men are that way.

Are you saying you are dependent on him financially and therefore are stuck in this relationship? Are there any other avenues to having a roof over your head? Can you live with your family?

You don't HAVE to be with a partner in order to exist and survive in this world, especially an abusive partner...

Just because he doesn't physically beat you does not mean he isn't abusing you emotionally, verbally, mentally, and psychologically.

Your self esteem is beaten down and you sound defeated. That's because of his abuse. It's eroding your self esteem. It will only get worse from here.
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