Six months ago I joined an online FB grief group when my mom passed away, where I could post about my grief. A few women from that group messaged me to ask me to be FB friends, so I added them.

One of them is local and gave me her cell #. I We chatted a few times about getting together, but she was always conveniently busy (re: not interested in a real friendship offline).

So, today she a post I wrote about feeling down in the dumps about my job search leading nowhere. I had left her a voicemail a couple of nights ago, to see if she wanted to chat about our mutual grief paths (she also lost her mom this year).

She texted me today that she got my voicemail but is "so busy with work she can't get together right now." Funny how she has the time to text me, but not call me, or accept my social invitations to get together. Classic one sided acquaintance-ship. Those don't interest me. Plus, I hate it when people blatantly lie about my place in their life. If you tell me you're too busy, then I know it's because I'm just not a priority in your life.

I replied to her text that right now, I just need people around me who prioritize me and since she's not interested developing a real friendship, I'm deleting her number from my phone b/c I'm tired of her not being honest with me.

She texted back "F--- you, you weirdo. You're blocked on FB and my cell. Don't contact me again."

She's just an acquaintance so I was just honest with her today when I bluntly told her that I'd rather she just be honest about not wanting to have a real friendship offline. I just want people who will be honest with me. I hate liars. Above all else, I hate liars. Lying to me is not something I will tolerate. Because there's no reason to lie to me.

She could have just managed my expectation during the first ever phone call we had about the parameters of our connection, that started with the online FB grief group and FB friendship. If she didn't want to become real friends with me, then don't offer ME your cellphone number. Don't lie and say you're "too busy" when I socially invite you out for coffee.

So, I feel like, she mismanaged my expectations and when I pointed that out to her, she got pissed at me and called me a nasty word. That's really emotionally immature on her part. If that makes me a weirdo, or confrontational to HER, ok. She's allowed to feel that way. I'm allowed to feel the way that I do too. She and I were not meant to be real friends in real life.

I don't think I'm a weirdo for being honest. Acquaintances who keep me as an option are not people that I need or want in my life because, what's the purpose of our connection then if it doesn't go anywhere?

I just had a counseling session about my communication style this past week. At a job interview, the front desk woman called me a "b----" when I asked her why she waited 30 minutes to let me inside the building for my job interview.

She literally sat on the front desk phone for 30 minutes, while I stood in the building entry way, peering through the glass doors with the recruiter on my cellphone, trying to figure out what I should do.

The recruiter connected the account manager of that client to my call, for a 3-way call, and the two young women were laughing at me and the situation instead of professional problem solving of how to contact the man who was supposed to interview me, yet didn't give either of them his phone number. So, a bad experience to say the lease. I shouldn't have lost my temper but I did. Lesson learned.

When someone else eventually let me into the building, I was done, emotionally. If you schedule me for an interview, at least unlock the building doors so I can come in, sit down, and wait, even if its for 30 minutes.

But I was just standing there, while people with badges inside walked by me, not letting me in, and she just sat at the front desk on the phone talking. I felt so disrespected and treated like trash.

I just felt so dejected like me being there didn't even matter. And it didn't help that the recruiter and her account manager sat giggling on the 3-way call with me, when I told them, "Um, that woman behind the desk just called me a "b-----" because I expressed my frustration for being kept waiting outside the locked building for 30 minutes."

I don't want to change other people. But, I deserve the right to be treated with respect and if setting that boundary means the other person tells me to "F--- off" or calls me a "b----" then so be it.

On my FB post today, another FB friend whom I know will never become a real friend offline (we live in different states and we all know how my attempt to befriend a past FB friend in another state went), posted a toxic perseverance quote of, "keep at it until the right job finds you." She's been married for her entire life so she's never had to endure financial straits alone, unemployment alone, grief alone as her husband has been her financial and emotional support buffer.

I didn't respond to her post b/c I decided it wasn't worth it. She doesn't really sympathize because she's not a single 52 year old woman with no job prospects like me. Yes, she's allowed her feelings and I'm allowed mine. We have commonalities and we have differences and I'm trying hard to respect her for her differences.

We don't have each other's phone numbers and she never offered me hers, nor have I offered her mine. So, my expectations of this online friendship are well-managed, boundary-wise. I will never ask her for her phone number because she doesn't really want a real friendship with me.