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Old Jul 16, 2023, 08:52 PM
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Wow she called you names, how unprofessional

It’s hard to navigate between being fake/not authentic and being too blunt. I am very blunt so I hear you on that. Sometimes it’s about exercising self control.

Do I want to publicly tell this person where she should go with this nonsense? Sure. Should I cause a public scene? Hhmm probably not.

Sometimes it’s good to leave, process what happened and then contact responsible party. I once was rudely spoken by a secretary in one office plus she lied about things creating issues for me etc I was too shocked to think straight.

I later contacted her boss, he was outraged. I know she got in trouble because I know other people in that facility, she complained how she got in trouble with the boss etc If I confronted her right there and then perhaps I’d look like a trouble maker and the rude one. Instead i remained calm and I called later and calmly explained my experience.

Now what if this boss asked witnesses, which they were a few. They’d say this quiet lady stood there taking high road so to speak while Secretary was a jerk. Or they could say this lady and Secretary had a confrontation and were going at each other and we aren’t even sure who started. Hhmm which version would play to my benefit?

There are a lot of nasty people out there. Sometimes it’s better to confront, sometimes it’s better to address it later and sometimes it’s better to just let it go and not bother. It’s really hard to navigate all that deciding what’s best in each situation. Tricky
Thanks for this!
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