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Old Jul 18, 2023, 07:18 AM
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Well the operating word is “according to Amy…”.

Since you only know these people in a music venue late at night with music blasting and have never spent time with them in their home or even anywhere else for that matter you simply don’t know what went on in their lives and relationships. Who abuse and who didn’t abuse and who had PD and who calls what abuse is a mystery here. We don’t even know why she was fired and if it was because boyfriend said something plus it’s not our business.

When people gossip about their relationship, it’s probably wise to state that “hey we don’t really know what happened so let’s stay out of it” and/or remove yourself from the conversation. Or if you aren’t comfortable saying it, just excuse yourself to the bathroom and change your location. You don’t even like this Leslie, why engage in discussing other people with her.

I don’t know if you had to tell Amy. It’s hard to tell if it was right or wrong. If she’s not really your friend and she’s not even allowed in the venue, I am not sure she needs to know what some intoxicated people gossip about in a bar. Many people don’t want to know if others (random people, not like her family or best friend) gossip about them. She works in bars. She must know some of the behaviors are typical for the crowd.

Now you told Amy that Leslie spread rumors then imagine Leslie would tell that guy that you are spreading rumors about him being abuser. So now there is another cycle of drama starting. It will never end. Plus you might be labeled as drama seeker. Better not engage with these people
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