The problem is that attacking those who disagree with your thinking is attacking & hating too. If the only people you like & don't call "transphobic" are people who think like you, you are also adding hate to the mix & thatbis not good for anyone either. Just because someone does not agree with your thinking does not make them transphobic. One can tolerate others personal choices without agreeing with them. That does not make them transphobic. That approach with people is what creates a hate environment no matter who or what they are on either side of the discussion