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eskielover · Jul 18, 2023, 12:32 PM

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I've felt desperate for a boyfriend because that will make me feel like I have a purpose.

This is dangerous thinking.....when you base your purpose on someone else. So when the relationship breaks up.....then where does that leave your purpose & value? It needs to come from within yourself. A quality therapist can help you understand yourself & actual abilities & truly assess what you are capable of doing at this current point in time.

I was getting my AA degree in music & thought I could be a concert flute player. When I went on to the next level of university to get my BA degree I found out I did not have the talent it took to do that. We have to assess our abilities & talents based on reality, not our wishful thinking or some unknowing family members who may have their opinions based on what they incorrectly see. That is why it is important to have an unbiased 3rd person's opinion & therapy will give them an accurate view of who you are & your capabilities.