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Default Jul 18, 2023 at 07:40 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Esmme View Post
I know this sounds dramatic, but it feels so, so true right now.

Recently, I had an issue with someone being transphobic towards me in private messages to my friends. (This is on another site) So I brought it to the staff, who promptly banned me on the idea that me telling them someone is transphobic is "slander".

Before that, I had questioned one of the staff's character because they were best friends with said transphobic person. This led to me being verbally assaulted by their friends and me being told, "You can't judge people based on who they are friends with". Which, I completely disagree with.

Before *that* even, I told someone that I believe that people who actively harm the LGBTQ+ community are similar (if not the same) as Nazis, to which I was told that that was an "insult". :/ They got extremely angry with me that I would compare the trans genocide in the USA to the Holocaust. And I agreed, a direct comparison can't be made, but they can be compared in the sense that they are both BAD. But that didn't stop them from getting angry at me...

It just feels like everything I say ends up making someone mad. Like, everyone hates me over these things... I feel awful because I honestly don't think I did anything particularly "wrong" to deserve being treated like this. It feels like everyone is mad at me and I can't do anything to change their minds...
It’s important to stand up for what we believe. But it might be better to avoid broad generalized and harsh labels, it alienates people.

If you want to educate people on how to treat others, you might consider approaching it less harshly.

No need to call people Nazis or compare different events using harsh labels etc. you’ll achieve more by calmly explaining to people where you stand on the matter. No one will change their mind after being called a Nazi. And there is no particularly good reason to bring Holocaust to a conversation about transphobia- horrid things but no need to compare

I doubt people hate you but if you frequently insult others, they’ll start distancing themselves from you
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