Possibly another option for handling this situation might have been to specifically object to the comments, without labeling someone "transphobic".


I'm really sorry that you are feeling so bad.

If I could make a suggestion: In the three situations, your response was to apply a broad label to someone: "transphobic", "question character", "Nazi".

My suggestion is to avoid using broad labels. Instead, precisely target your responses to the specific situation at hand. For example: "These comments are hurtful to me", "Why do you support these policies?", "Your suggestion treats LGBTQ+ people unfairly".

If someone were to call you straightphobic/bad character/Nazi, how open would you be to calm, rational discussion with them?