Perhaps it would help if I clarified. I was responding to the post directly above me in which you stated your friend called your boundaries intolerant. And suggested compassion for those instances. The two books I recommended were both suggestions to your multiple posts about conflict with people. The first is a book about life skills. Something you say nobody ever taught you. The second is more how you seem to respond to suggestions by lashing out and puffing up. Kindness is not a weakness.