I'm sorry that this is happening to you.

There are articles on the internet about how to handle rude jokes. Not sure how helpful they are or would be but perhaps these are articles you might consider reading for new ideas.

I know a trick a psychologist taught me for handling this kind of thing. If someone says something rude to me in a light and joking way, I reply with the word "what?" This gives the person the opportunity to think about what they said to me. It usually surprises them and gets them thinking: "what did I just say to this person?"

If they say, "oh nothing" then the problem is solved. If they repeat the rudeness, I say "what?" again. I find this usually stops the unwanted behavior. Sometimes I have to use "what" repeatedly before a person gets the message.

On the face of it, the word "what?" is neither defensive or offensive. It is just a neurtral question.

It gives a person uttering a rude remark the opportunity to reflect on what they said and consider it. They might think that I didn't hear what I said and then repeat it. But if I say "what? again, that usually stops them in their tracks.

By responding to a rude remark with "what" it empowers me because it gives me an alternative to being hurt and victimized but is not so harsh as to be an attack on the other person. It is also very easy to remember since it is just the one word "what?"

The psychologist who taught me this called it a form of "verbal judo." In the martial art, judo, one uses another person's own weight and strength to defend oneself.

Sometimes I forget to use the word "what?" in rude situations, but it is comforting for me to know that it is something in my psychological tool box.

Not suggesting you use this. I'm just sharing what helps me. There are also articles by psychologists on "verbal judo" on the internet if you are interested.

Since I am not a psychologist, I have no clue what is the deep motivation behind what your chiropractor is doing, but I hope you find ways to avoid getting hurt.

You certainly don't deserve to be hurt and especially by a medical professional. I also hope that other members here will have better words for you than my poor words. So sorry again that this is happening to you!