Throughout this crazy event, my wife still doesn't consider divorce an option. She said, several times, that she believes if we give ourselves a few years - of Geographic separation - that "God coukd very well bring us back together as husband and wife. "

So, I'm thinking....

What if i grant her this request.

I live here in California a few years, she lives in South Carolina a few years, then we agree to meet again and see if she feels differently about me....

Im 57 now. In 5 years i will be 62.

How long would we be "back together" before the next breakup text?????????????????

Tuesday night, we were planting lavender bushes and she said, "I keep thinking about your job with the law firm. You have the best job you've ever had, and now i am faced with the fact that, after i have raised you, as an adult child, and now that you are changing, some other woman is likely going to reap the benefits of those changes and the benefits of your new career."

I told her, "I've always felt that this job was "ours" and not just "mine."

She also told me, about 2 years ago, that "marriage is very important. Being older (she just turned 54) and unmarried makes you look like a defect."

This morning, she asked me, "what does your mother think about our breakup?"

I answered, "Mom loves you and Mom hopes we could find a way to make it work, but Mom is willing to accept whatever decision you make, or feel like you have to make."

She then asked, "what did you tell your Mom and kids (adults) about the reason behind the breakup?"

I answered, "I told them that i feel like i let you down as a husband, i didn't treat you the way i promised too, and i feel like you got hurt, got tired and just fell out of love."

She said, "Well, you are definitely changing. 6 months ago, you would have blamed me..."