So, this morning i told her, "i believe that marriage should be based on love, not two incomes, not someone's potential (she has told me several times, when asked why she married me, it was because she saw my potential) and not the need for continued medical coverage or social status. Honestly, i feel guilty now being on your health plan and im listening now when you say that you want me out of your life, whether its 5 years or forever, or whatever that might be, i hear you.

I'm gonna honor that choice. I made a commitment to you to stay here and keep the home maintained (which takes both our full-time incomes, even though our cars are paid off and we have zero outstanding debt) and i never break a promise, so you can count on my income to continue until the big deals all close and we can divide the profits.

I guess, for now, i should move into the guestroom to make things easier on you, if that's possible, i really don't know how you feel about that, but i don't want to hurt you, or disappoint you any longer by trying to keep "us" from falling apart.

If you need me out of the house to feel better in the here & now, i can ask to stay at my drummer's cabin (which he offered 2 years ago) and live there while bankrolling you here, so think about it and let me know.

But, i want you to know that i love you, and i honestly thought i was fighting for "us" by staying and not staying to cause you to feel uncomfortable or unhappy...."