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Old Jul 20, 2023, 12:18 PM
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Originally Posted by JustTotallyLost View Post
@Open Eyes, @Tart Cherry Jam -

This morning, i sat down with one of the attorney's i work with and asked if he would do my divorce.

He said,"its easy, you can do this yourself! We literally do this everyday here!"

I said, "its not easy. I break down crying when i start typing."

So he agreed to look at my case and he said, "Boy, your are really stupid. You signed away all rights to the home and property purchases, even on purchases you funded???

You agreed in the legal separation to give up your claim to spousal support???

You can still claim the funds you deposited on these purchases and at least require the home be sold to fund the repayment. "

I answered, "I love her with all my heart. I wish her love, peace and a husband in the future who measures up. I gave my word and i cannot break a promise.

I have nothing but my car, my clothes and a few musical instruments.

I'm all alone and my integrity is all that i have.

All im asking you is to please draw up the papers and file it.

I ask for nothing. Just give me a date that i will finally be free from my obligation, a date that i can look foward too..."

He said, "do you realize that you are potentially giving up your rights to several, hundreds of thousands of dollars that you are entitked to by law???"

I said, "Yes, i know....but I'd rather sleep on a park bench than break a promise that i made. Write me a simple divorce, nothing requested, and be sure that in the actual court document, that you write this statement. "

"The petitioner files this with a heavy heart, but he feels an obligation to give the respondent the freedoms that she is requesting. The petitioner asks for nothing from the respondent, because he gave his word of honor and nothing could ever compensate for the loss of the true love of his life. The petitioner wishes the respondent love, peace and happiness, and the hope that being released from this marriage covenant will bring healing and new beginnings...."

He looked at me and said, "That is the dumbest ***** I've ever heard, but OK, its your life. We'll do it your way..."
Never make choices like this out of emotional duress.

Also, while it may seem you are doing what’s right, you are actually doing her a disservice.
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