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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
Oh! That's what I forgot! I just read somewhere that people with abandonment issues typically sleep with some sort of noise: a fan, a sound machine, traffic. It's thought that silence triggers their abandonment feelings. I know this really resonates with me. I hate silence. I've told L to never sit in silence with me, that I hate it, and it doesn't help. And I do sleep with all 3 sounds I listed. Especially can't sleep without my sound machine! Even when I drive alone, even if I'm playing music, I crack my window so I can hear traffic.
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This is really interesting, because I have abandonment issues and also hate being in silence, whether in a car, sitting with someone, by myself, etc. And I need a white noise machine and/or fan for sleeping. I thought it was partly because I have tinnitus, but maybe it's the abandonment thing, too?
I think part of what was difficult in that one recent session with my T was the silence. Normally, he's pretty chatty, so even if I'm not feeling talkative or am unsure what to say, he'll be filling some of that space with talking. So when he didn't, it was more difficult/painful.