I guess today I screwed up, jumping the gun on sending a rather strongly worded email to my sister. I don't think anything in the email was wrong (or even will be), but Hubby suggested we make a call on Monday first. I couldn't wait that long because I was very triggered. This whole inheritance junk truly creates contentious interactions. It's especially horrible when an abusive domineering brother-in-law is involved. The occasions that I actually talk to my sister without him monitoring, it's pleasant and peaceful. Then the monster forces her to send basically hostile dictatorial emails to me. I know those are not "in her voice", but rather his. He is not an inheritor and yet he acts like he is. I've written this before here, but I can't stomach that I have to deal with him. When the time comes that I need not ever hear from him again, I'll be relieved. My worry is that she and I will become estranged, because of him. And yes, I do hate the idea that she will continue to be abused, as will (to some degrees) my eldest nephew. However, there is nothing I can do.