In society in general people are quick to put an arm round a crying person to what they believe comforts them.

The comfort is temporary. I found I had your same struggles in therapy and in the early years, to felt abandoned by T. Felt as if she did nothing.

In time I come to understand that just sitting with a person and not trying to alter what they are feeling is the greatest gift. The truest comfort. Eventually I knew T was there and her strength in just being with my pain become my strength too.