HI I have adopted my neices about 8 years ago. They had been in my care along time. THey are now 9 and 12. The 12 year old has FAS. Its been really hard these last couple of years with her. SHe refuses to take a bath. It is a struggle to get her in it. SHe refuses to brush her teeth it has to be supervised. She still sucks her thumb. SHe refuses to do school work and is now homeschooled with a couple of classes at a home based school. The teachers treat me like a bad mom. They tell me she stinks and her behavior is not like a normal 12 year old. Im like duh. They hadnt been informed of her FAS. I didnt find this out until last week. SHe is a sweet kid and I love her to death. Its just hard.
My nine year old was exposed to meth and was shaken. SHe was also born with viralmeningities. SHe had a lot of issues in the beginning. She had seizures and myoclonic jerks. She used a wheelchair for a while. SHe is now almost perfectly normal. No seizures or any thing. She has a very bad temper though.
Sometimes I get really tired. I have PTSD and I have to deal with that also. I had no good parenting so i am winging it. I have no idea what I am doing half the time. OK.....most of the time.