It doesn't matter that she raised you. That doesn't give her the right to mistreat you and your husband now. She isn't your mom and she isn't your husband. You don''t owe her such allegiance.


It's possible that your mom will lean on you to go on vacation with them again. Don't do it! It's possible that your mom will side with your sister, so as to have more joint vacations. She is your mom, but your first allegiance is to your husband, and to yourself! Therefore, work on self-regard and boundaries with your therapist. Put yourself and your husband first!