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Originally Posted by Lemoncake
I think you’re being too harsh on yourself Art. Don’t think the others would think you were being a dweeb at all. Feeling supported and heard is the most important aspect. Glad you found a good group.
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Thanks Lemoncake. Ugh, I wonder if I will ever learn to let go of these codependent behaviors (constantly needing/craving external approval is of course one of them) and that's what I was doing, huh, worrying about looking like a dweeb.
Well, progress over perfection, right? I'm definitely making progress in the area of my relationship with h - as far as letting him manage his own 'stuff' (feelings, etc). In the past I did not know how to do that at all and was constantly making problems where there didn't have to be. I've been able to see in the past couple of months just how much of the problems between us I was causing!! He's not blameless, of course, but working on my part of it has certainly helped a lot.