Go to YouTube. Type this in the search space: "Advice for men facing divorce." That will bring up a bunch of videos. Some will be relevant to your situation. Some won't be. Skip around, and sample here and there. You'll likely find something that resonates with you.

Also, go to your regular browser. Type in the same topic. See what comes up. You'll get solicitations from law firms right away. You may ignore those. Skim through some articles. You'll feel less alone. This will help you to start thinking pragmatically and practically. Stay calm and don't be rushed into anything. You can get through this and come out whole. When she talks, listen politely. Let her do all the talking she wants. Your best bet is to say little.