Tonight, i had a very calm conversation with her about our life. In that conversation, i honored her for everything she did for me, and for us.

She has provided full, zero-cost, medical, dental and vision for my youngest son and i, she helped me rebuild my credit after a very bitter and costly divorce and she has supported me.

I told her, "You know, I'm close to a law degree. I acknowledge the past and i take ownership of my shortcomings, but, in all candor, i feel like you have also earned a part of this job and im offering this future to you."

She answered, "When i met you, i didn't know you were a musician. It was only after we married that you brought out a guitar and started playing at the house, and it was only then that you told me you had been a musician since you were 15, and showed me all these pictures of you playing in bands. You lied to me by hiding your past. You wouldn't be happy without music in your life. You are a born performer. You gave it up for two years to try and save our marriage, but it hurt you inside. Its in your soul.

When we met, you were the perfect husband, but you worked at it. This wasn't natural for you."

I said, "Do you remember the $155,000 backyard remodel, and the two bathrooms we totally renovated for $33,000? That was money from working in music. Do you remember that?"

She answered, "Yes, I remember. Had i have known you were a musician, it would have been a deal-breaker."