I don’t tell you all this to gloat, by now means, I have been where you are and the pain is indescribable.

But my current T always tells me where she’s going on vacation, as long as I’m the who brings it up. Like right now she’s gone for 2 weeks. She told me she’s moving and then she’s going to Florida. That’s as much detail as she gives, and that’s as much detail as I need.
I don’t need to know where she’s moving or who she’s going away with. Very benign in my opinion.

I’m just makes my mind stopping wondering crazy things. Abandonment does a number on you and I tend to compare my ‘hard’ times to their ‘wonderful’ life. Her telling me normalizes her to me. It really helps me with the ‘trusting’ process