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Old Jul 26, 2023, 01:17 PM
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It seems like I almost always need to intiate contact with almost everyone that I know. Even friends who I’ve knoen for years. I’m not sure why that is. I ferl like I’m not a priority to anyone at all.

It often feels like most people only keep me around to have as an option when no one else is available or because they maybe feel sorry for me.

It sucks. Anyways, would it be weird or inappropriate if I nicely asked new acquaintances if they could please initiate plans next time?

I was thinking of saying something like, I’ve invited you out the last two or three times & so far it seems like you like hanging out with me.

I feel like I’m bothering you though as you’re often unavailable or you tend to take awhile to get back to me. So I’d appreciate it if you intiate plans next time. Especially since your schedule seems to be more unpredictable than mine is.

Does that sound needy or weird? If so, how should I word things then?

Should I say anything or not?

I have invited a few new aquaintences out 2 or 3 times already & a few times they made plans but then forgot about them or they suggest getting together but then never followed through.

It’s do frustrating! I feel like giving up on even trying anymore! I’m constantly getting mistreated & ignored!

Why? What’s confusing is that most of the time these women seem to enjoy being around me.

But then I end up getting ignored having them give me constant busy excuses. I get that people are busy, but I get the busy excuse all the time.

It’s ridiculous. Why do people do this? Am I maybe getting the ‘polite’ brush off? Are these women giving me ‘hints’ that I’m not getting maybe? Are they being ‘nice’ by not ignoring me completely?

One lady just bought me a birthday lunch. That doesn’t sound like she wanted to blow me off unless she changed her mind about me later, idk. I mentioned something that I shouldn’t have about a first time DUI. Bad idea.

What should I do?
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