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Originally Posted by jesyka
OK, so are you saying that I might be trying to hard & scaring people away? What are you trying to say exactly?
To just back off & give them more space? I thought that they wanted to get together with me again. I’m confused. Thanks for the suggestion about calling when they can.
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I’m not sure the frequency you are aiming for in these new, budding friendships. I think it’s best when expectations are very low, and lots of space is given.
You get together. It’s a good experience. They will want to see you again, but in due time. No, you are not their priority. I feel, with people, it is that they are more about wanting to enjoy the activity you do together, and they like being with another person who they enjoy doing it with, and that is when they will contact you. This is especially true in new friendships.
I needs to be both people making effort, but let it be at its own pace. Meanwhile, nurture other relationships and enjoy doing things by yourself, too.