Malign - having or showing intense, often vicious ill will.

I try to NEVER do that to anyone. Given how the FOO (family of origin) were/are.... I think I'm doing ok.

That's one of my core values. To NEVER be that awful person those abusers (in ''real life'') said I was. And to try always to practise kindness and compassion. I'm sure I ''fail'' sometimes (like everyone does) (especially hard is kindness to self..)