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Originally Posted by insideoutsider
Thanks for your answers! It's a great question isn't it. I'll give it a shot:
My parents, I believe, did a good job raising me. I mostly see the world as a prosocial, cooperative, fruitful place. And alongside establishing that healthy world view, I was raised in an environment that encouraged confidence and such. As I get older I appreciate this more and more.
However, with the lights out it's less dangerous. But even so, tapping into that mindset at a later age, merely having it be accessable helps a lot.
Q: what aspects of other people do you tend to judge too harshly, and what aspects do you give people too much grace on, in your opinion?
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I get frustrated with people that make what I view as the wrong decisions, politically and sometimes otherwise. Sometimes they seem self-centered and not fair to the whole. I'll say there is a "too harsh" involved in judging some (but not all) of that group because the some may not know realities because of being misled, not educated enough to know, or raised in an inappropriate way, in my view. Nature and nurture are not peoples' faults. I know this. As for me giving too much grace, I know before full acceptance of my diagnosis I rarely held myself as responsible for my manic reactions as I should have. That has changed. Also, similarly, my introverted nature shuts out potential friends that I really should seek out. I'm still a bit delinquent about nurturing friendships and some familial relationships I have, with the exception of my husband. The "too much grace" is that I know this, but still do too little to work on it...and don't hold it against myself enough.
On the "laissez-faire" to very strict scale, how would you characterize how you were raised?