I don't usually ask for insight or other objectives but this time I am. My mother recently told me that it upset her that I did not tell her when I left my hometown and moved very far away. I never told anyone where I was going nor that I was leaving. It appears to have hurt her.

For me, I'm having great difficulty understand why it would even hurt her at all. I'm definitely not a cold hearted person, I am an abuse victim.

I explained why I left. I'm just having a lot of difficulty understanding why she would be hurt or even care. I mean she had three years to write to me and say something. Why wait three years to say something.

I just don't want to be hurt or lied to anymore. I also find it really difficult to understand because in thousands of ways I was always told and shown through actions that it was such a bother just to have me around. Now I'm.gone and she is saying it hurt. I'm.really really confused and vulnerable.

Can anyone give me some insight. I need to get some clarity around this. Please be gentle, I'm.in a lot of emotional.psin.

Thank you.