I agree with Bill about sending pictures. I don’t really understand why they send you her pictures. Unless you ask for it. They need to stop it

I don’t believe their chances for college are doomed. That’s just not true. Plenty of people attend college without having much money, having divorced parents or broke parents or no parents. First two years community college. One can pay for it by working and taking classes part time.

Remaining years use any of the options: 1. Work full time take part time classes and take a loan 2. Attend college full time and work part time to pay for part of it and for the rest take a loan and parents take parent loan 3. Work and save money by living at home. Then use that money for college in a few years etc

All of the things people assume they need are just wants, not needs. One doesn’t need big houses or even small houses or any houses. Big yards. Bunch of cars. Tuition paid by parents. Full time college living in dorms. Living in fancy areas. These are nice things. But these aren’t requirements for success and happiness

Your kids and you could be just fine. You’ll be all right