People do understand that you are struggling. No one thinks you should just be happy jolly.

But when you repeatedly state that you want relationship with her even though not only you were abused, but also she doesn’t want relationship with you and you can’t force her. When you tell us you want this woman, you pretty much telling us that you like to be abused. You can’t expect us to agree to this course of action.

Imagine I made a post that I was married to abusive alcoholic who left me and children and refuses to be a parent but I still want him back and he’s so gorgeous. People would tell me to wake up. And rightly so. Just because genders are reversed it doesn’t mean we think living in a fantasy and craving abuse is the way to go.

No one thinks that you need to suck it up or not worry. No one said that. Worshipping, idolizing abusers and living in a fantasy of you two living happily ever after is just not healthy