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Originally Posted by ArmorPlate108
I think this is the trauma bond. He knows he's trauma bonded to her, and it's a long process to work through it.
Maybe I'm off the mark here, but it seems like maybe he's struggling with the feelings that go with the trauma bond more than he actually wants her back?
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It could be. But I don’t know.
Some people prefer to live in a fantasy. Like I was in a relationship with alcoholic and my fantasy was how he’ll be sober and things will be great. It was easier than facing a reality.
Facing reality is hard but that’s the only way to live.
Like in this situation reality is that this woman abused her husband, left their marriage and moved on with her life ignoring her kids- so it’s time to take actions and take care of business ending this charade.
Fantasy is that she is such a good person and I hope she came back. It’s not real. At some point one has to wake up and see what’s real