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Originally Posted by eskielover
If she had died, you would get support because you wouldn't be saying:
You would be forced to deal with the reality that she is gone & process the grief & go through it without the drams of still wanting to chase her. Gone is gone but if you are unable or unwilling to accept that, this is something that needs serious work in therapy if you really want to heal from this
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I’ve known people unable or unwilling to accept reality that the relationship was over. This one woman had her fiancée ending their engagement but she refused to return engagement ring. Because she continued wearing the ring she insisted she’s still engaged. Like refused to face it. I was in a relationship with someone who refused to accept that it was over and I left. I had to jump through hoops to get him see the reality. Not accepting reality is not uncommon but it certainly isn’t healthy
I don’t understand comparing spouse dying to spouse leaving their family and gallivanting around with friends and lovers and ignoring their children. It’s not the same thing at all and of course people react very differently. She didn’t die. She’s having good time