I believe you hustled and made a lot of cash to rebuild your life in a way that your first wife was not able to cripple you. However, your present wife will benefit from that because of how the paper trail is in her favor. The other downfall is what is not paid in to social security and that also can hit when calculating social security when you retire. I believe you worked very hard. I do think you should get half of this home you invested in when it sells if you can. Idk if that’s doable given how you set things up in your current wife’s name.