Hugs to you, RD.

Hope you are doing okay today.

It seems like earlier in the thread you said your were very codependent. Being codependent with a covert N/ passive aggressive N, is a whole other ballgame. I've walked down this road, and am still on it. Heck, to some extent I'll never get off of it, not because I'll still be codependent, but because the experience can never be erased.

The more I walk the road, the less I think I understand. In some ways it's like looking at impressionist art- from a distance it makes decent sense, but the closer you look, it gets strangely blurry and you can't always make sense of things. It's confusing as hell at times. You have to detach from someone you were very attached to, you have to build a new identity when so much of who you thought you were involved them- and that's just at the starting line. .

And it's nothing like being with someone who was overt in their disorder. That makes much more sense. With coverts, you often can't explain what's happened without looking like you're "the crazy one." It's very lonely.

Wherever you are on the journey back to yourself is okay. We should support you and honor that, because none of us has walked your particular road.

Hope you are okay and that today is a good one.