It’s very hard when children are involved. They feel loneliness and shame and they feel bad for the parent that is being hurt.

It is like a death because of how it breaks apart the family and leaves a confusing gap. Have you tried seeing if YouTube has talks about how to deal with this challenge? I have not checked but I bet there are talks from therapists that could prove very helpful.

What I do know is that having a partner or family member that
Has this problem along with mood shifts and outbursts has a bad effect on the nervous system. I have that challenge and it can get painful if I face someone that has issues due to alcoholism/addiction. These people do not respect boundaries and can say terrible mean things.