Hi, Brand new here & ill try and explain as best i can.

My husband and I have been together 5 years, married 18 months. We both have children from past relationships. The last 12 months has been rocky to say the least, he tried to end our marriage last June & October and we nearly broke up in March this year but seem to have come around however I think our relationship has been dying slowly. He never plans anything, no dates, dinners out, flowers nothing like he used to and does not even try to initiate sexual intimacy, I plan and book all things and this last couple of weeks i have been feeling like he barely wants to kiss me let alone look at me. When I bring up my feelings and concerns he just responds with "well you can do these things" He has been telling me things like "Maybe its you" when it turns into an argument.

Yesterday I had a talk to him about where we are at and we spoke for a bit but manly he is just shut down so i went for a walk and let it be, on my walk i realised I think he actually doesnt want the relationship so when i got back I expressed how i felt and ended it, I need more, i need my husband to want me. He has since shut more down and his reaction is "youve made it clear what you want"

Im now starting to go through the grief/shame all things, it hurts that he wont fight for it, he says i broke his heart and i guess his way to deal with that is shut down but i read it as he is content with me calling it and him not having to.

Thoughts?