Oh, that one is easy to deal with. Think of contracts. She breached the contract many times in the past and continues to be in breach. She is not going to cure the breach. In many ways her breach is incurable anyway, because she cannot undo the past. Her breach of the contract releases you from your obligation to perform your end of the contract. Plus, it is not possible to perform your end anyway since she is not receptive to your showing of love and affection. So there is nothing you can do to help the situation now. You are not bound by the oath anymore.