Also, why do you tend to make excuses & say things like I’ll get back to you or let me think about it & then never get back to that person at all? That’s very passive aggressive behavior IMHO.

Why not just say no instead of ignoring people? It’s hurtful to ignore people & waste their time. People do notice that. I aldo don’t like it when people pleasers flake out at the last second too.

I have a friend who keeps lying about things like getting together to hang out to go out of town but so far after two months have passed, no plans have been made. She’s always ‘busy’. She always has time to see her sister though who lives far away from her.

Even a simple plan to go to the movies is met with an excuse like, I need to ask my husband if we’re doing anything this weekend.

She used to take awhile to get back to me until I told her that I needed to hear a yes or no answer back from her soon instead of waiting to long to hear back from her.

I told her that I’d like to invite other friends out if she wasn’t interested or uncertain about going out. I don’t think that it’s nice of her to make me wait days or a week for an answer

I didn’t say that though. It is rude. It’s just a movie, not a major life decision, lol 😆

I’m trying to understand why people who are people pleasers are like this. I did read articles about people pleasers on here & I understand that they need approval badly. They are afraid to day No because they are afraid of upsetting other people

What I don’t understand is that don’t they realize that they upset other people by not being honest? People can eventually tell that they’re not being honest & thar they’re only telling people what they want to hear after awhile.

Also, it is annoying to have to not get a yes or no answer. I especially hate it when passive aggressive people or very passive expect you to interpret their no reply response as a no. It’s irritating & rude.

I’d appreciate a firm & polite no thanks, not interested to an invite instead with no lame b.s excuse.

And definitely oh, I got sick literally at the last second, right! It could happen, but usually not.

What does it really mean when you say: I’ll think about it? That you really mean no?

Why do you say that?

Please explain why you need approval & why you people please. I’m not trying to judge or shame anyone. I’m trying understand this baffling behavior.