Having come from a home that gave hot and cold messaging, its very easy to become apologetic when you're on the receiving end of the bad acts, because you want to believe they shouldn't exist when that person has done these good things. In allot of cases you end up making yourself believe that in some way its just your fault for those bad things and perhaps you deserved them. Well... you don't. A bad action is a bad action. The consideration given to that is just as deliberate as the one considered good. Translation: You need to call it out and make any person in your life, regardless of label, accountable when they do something wrong. No one should be able to have their way with you and transpose all of their dissatisfactions in life upon you, simply because they think displaying descent behavior occasionally somehow gives them license to be an inconsiderate jerk when the mood hits them. You are a person, not a punching bag. Stand up for yourself. Believe in yourself. And never take a back seat to another person's opinion or treatment of you. You have the keys to the entrance of your identity. Do not hand them out to anyone.