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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
I also have wondered why people might not be direct but these days I try not to think about it too much, there’s usually not much we can do about it as it’s their pattern.
It sounds like you approached her about responding in a timely manner about movies and she did respond positively, but still delays about other activities?
Have you tried after a reasonable length of time (a few days say) of no response just asking someone else or making other plans? It sounds like you’ve given her lots of opportunities so it seems fair enough for you to get on and make other plans in absence of a response.
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Yes, you’re right about everything. I think that she intentionally ignores invites to some concerts & more costly outings because she’s not interested or she doesn’t have the money to spend but she doesn’t want to admit that due to her pride. It’s so silly.
I’d understand if she said she couldn’t afford to go out. Why can’t she just say no? I told her that it wouldn’t offend me. Ignoring me IS offensive though.
I think that she intentionally ignores me hoping that I won’t bother to mention things again. It’s like she is trying to tell me that she’s saying no indirectly. Why not just say no directly?
She rarely says yes or no. It’s almost always, let me think about it or let me ask my husband if we have plans, ugh!
She’s becoming more distant & unreliable now which worries me. Hopefully she’s not doing the slow fade.
Why would she ignore me like this? Should I say anything about her dismissive behavior?