I have mixed feelings about a t's self-disclosure. My long-term t did self disclose quite a bit, whenever she felt like it related to what we were talking about, and I appreciated it all the way along. However, and this is why I have mixed feelings about it, because of those self-disclosures I'd built this version of her in my head that, when she realized it, she was quick to point out that while I know tidbits here and there about her, I don't really know her. I won't go into why this came up because it was painful. But anyway. With the benefit of hindsight, I do understand what she meant now at long last. Would I say I wish she'd never self-disclosed? No, I guess I wouldn't, because most of the time she was pretty good at knowing when to say what; it helped me feel like she really understood whatever I was talking about at the time. But yeah, I'm still a little conflicted about the subject.