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Originally Posted by eskielover
Some people just don't like confrontation & may have nothing to do with people pleasing. Sometimes they hope that the other person will be the one who gives up & fades away when they don't willingly do everything the other person wants them to do with them.
Fading away is fine actually it is just a non-confrontational way of saying "I'm just not that into being friends with you" & is a hint that most people would take instead of making an issue out of it.
If she says she has to think about it....go ahead & ask those other friends. "IF" she finally gets back to you & you have made other arrangements with someone else....just let her know....no big deal. Don't wait around for an answer when most times you don't get one.
If that is something that bothers her (which I doubt it is) then the next time she will get back with you sooner IF SHE IS REALLY INTERESTED.
Don't let other peoples indecision or lack of response control your life.
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I’m not sure if she is doing the slow fade. Her & her husband recently took me to dinner for my birthday. So if she was doing the slow fade, then why do that plus get me a gift as well?
She has always been like this in the 5 or more years I have known her. She has gotten worse with these vague wishy washy answers though.
It’s weird. She is so bad that she let herself be used by this former mooch friend who I wrote about on here awhile back.
She did finally say no to paying for her meal once. So maybe she has a very difficult time saying no directly. Why is it so hard for some people to just say no?
I have never gotten upset at her for saying no.