Threatening to end the marriage multiple times just after tying the knot together is not a healthy relationship. He didn't give you what you needed and wanted and he wasn't willing to even try. He wasn't willing to meet you halfway. Marriages and romance take effort. - 50/50 on both partner's side. He has no clue how to be a good husband or partner. Then he tells you that you can do all the planning, and that maybe the issue is you? That's deflection and he's taking no accountability for his lack of effort. Then he blames YOU for breaking his heart? He's turning it all around on you.
There is no shame in ending the marriage. You tried, and you expressed to him how you felt. You will experience grief, and grief takes time to work through. You're doing the right thing by ending it, in my opinion. Why salvage a marriage with someone who can't even try to give you what you ask for? As one person said it here, it's a one-way relationship.
I'm so sorry this is happening. But, you and your children will be far better off in the end without this unhealthy relationship. He's got a lot of work to do before he's even ready to be in a committed relationship.
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