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Originally Posted by jesyka
Thanks for explaining things. She doesn’t always use these lame excuses. She does say yes to me directly fir some things.
It’s still irritating that she can’t say no to the things that she’s not interested in doing directly .
Why do some people have such a hard time saying no to anything directly? I never got upset at her for saying no ever.
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Some people just feel that saying "no" is a form of confrontation because its delivering what in their minds is bad news. And rather than saying it, which might make them uncomfortable, they feel it necessary to deliver it in what they deem a more forgiving manner.
I have a friend I've known over 50 years and he almost never says no when he has to turn things down. He will say, " Lets see how it looks when it gets closer and I'll let you know." Which is an entirely different answer from when he wants to do something. So while I never get "no" directly , I've come to understand what his version of "no" is and don't give it any more consideration when I hear those deliveries.
Its a kind of an unspoken understanding and perhaps that's what you should do with this person.