Its not uncommon for people who want out of a relationship to try and do things to get the other to leave first so they do not look like the villain. Maybe he's doing this because of how it would look in front of the kids? Not sure.. But one thing is true. He has not been upfront with you and has been acting out in order to get this result. I would not remotely feel guilt or remorse. If this guy was getting cold feet a year into the marriage, then clearly he hadn't given the decision enough thought. So now he needs someone to do it for him. Sounds like getting him out of there is a great decision for you and your children. Your kids need a real role model, not a coward like this fella. I'm very sorry for your circumstances, but never reject truth when it reveals itself to you.