One thing I have learned in life is that in no situation whatsoever am I ever treated in a way I didn’t deserve. The problem is always me. If I don’t get the same respect or attention somebody else got, it has to be due to something I did wrong. Even if someone has been blatantly rude or abusive to me, that person is never being a jerk. I must have set them off somehow. And if I ever try to say any different, then I am “making excuses,” and “blaming everybody else for my problems,” and “not taking responsibility.”